For example… it helps if your honey is VERY smart, or VERY talented, or VERY hardworking, or VERY nice, or VERY funny or VERY supportive, or VERY generous, or VERY full of interesting world lens comments, etc.
Basically… you need to see at least one magical, heart-fluttering quality about this man/woman that makes him/her stand out to you as special — admirable - cherishable - for true love to spring forth. When someone has a “1 VERY” aspect, it’s a sign of good, strong character - which Aristotle says is essential to find in a partner - because the healthiest, happiest relationships are what he calls “RELATIONSHIPS OF SHARED VIRTUE” - where you inspire each other to operate at your highest character, best potential.
Simultaneously, although finding one VERY in your partner is VERY good, finding two VERY aspects can be VERY bad.
For example… if your partner/crush is VERY, VERY funny - NON-STOP FUNNY – well, then, this might be a red flag — a sign that this person might be using all that ha-ha-ha laughter to avoid honest, open communication - and later, when you try to connect soul to soul—heart to heart—you might be greeted by a gigantic, unmovable whoopie cushion wall.
Or…if your partner/crush is VERY, VERY hardworking - this might also be a red flag a-waving that they might be VERY, VERY emotionally unavailable - leaving you VERY, VERY lonely.
Or…if your partner is VERY, VERY extravagant with money on you - they might be VERY, VERY low in self esteem — and trying to buy your love - without valuing what makes you (and themselves) truly priceless.
The list of “VERY, VERY” danger zones is endless. But the common red flag in all of them is the same. If someone is a VERY, VERY EXTREME of something - this means they are not operating from a place of what Aristotle calls THE MEAN ZONE - aka: the moderation zone.
According to Aristotle, everything has a MEAN ZONE/MODERATION ZONE —all of life’s actions, feelings and material goods.
Even lovingness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between coldness and co-dependent suffocation!
Even truthfulness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between outright lying and being hurtfully direct!
Even courageousness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between fearfulness and rashness!
Even niceness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between being a spineless worm and a jerk!
Let’s just take a quick moment to consider this last MEAN ZONE - of NICENESS. If sometimes you haven’t been attracted to a guy/gal because you feel that he/she’s “TOO nice!”—you were intuitively correct for not being attracted. According to Aristotle, it is actually not “strong character” to be a spineless, wormy, too nice person.
Guess what else?
You too must watch out for being a VERY, VERY spineless wormy too nice person. (After all, It’s hard to be your most attractive self when you have footprints on your face!)
YOUR ASSIGNMENT:
Brainstorm which one VERY special things your partner/crush has that make you all a-flutter? Compliment your partner/crush about them today. Next, brainstorm if they have any red flag VERY, VERY danger zones. If so, you might want to chat with them about them today. Oh - ditto for yourself. Brainstorm which one VERY special things you have to offer a partner — and let yourself feel proud and happy. Next - brainstorm if you have an VERY, VERY aspects you might need to tone down about yourself to rise up to your highest character, so you can be in your best relationship!
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Are you right now having trouble selling your product, service talent? If so, maybe you’re looking for love in all the slightly-wrong places.
Yo! It doesn’t matter how good your beef tenderloin is. Don’t try to sell it to a vegan store.
In other words:
When looking for the right client, consumer, distribution market, promotional venue ….always narrow-focus to only those who “get” you. Take some time to brainstorm how your product, service, talent solves problems, needs and fears - then brainstorm up a list of who is reeling most with these problems, needs and fears!
In summary:
Stop looking for love in all the slightly wrong places. You’ll waste time and money and get your heart broken.
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Want to score extreme business success? Then you must recognize the difference between KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM .
A KNOWLEDGABLE PERSON gathers, memorizes, crunches, and reports information. In other words, A KNOWLEDGABLE PERSON values book smarts – not gut smarts or street smarts.
A WISE PERSON not only gathers information, but goes a step beyond, by merging knowledge with gut instincts, and thereby thinking from both sides of their brain!
HONING YOUR GUT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER IN BUSINESS FOR MANY REASONS…INCLUDING:
1. The world has speeded up. Learning how to better trust your gut helps you make wiser, quicker decisions.
2. The world has gotten more cluttered. Leaning to trust your gut helps you to wisely narrow focus on the most relevant facts.
3. The world now relies too much on focus groups. Leaning to trust your gut helps you make sure these sessions don’t turn into de-focus groups.
SOME QUICK GUT MUSCLE BUILDNG TECHNIQUES TO TRY THIS AFTERNOON:
1. FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL BY FEELING SOMETHING:
Psychologists believe that the sense of touch develops before both our sense of sight and our intellect, and so it’s a highly developed sense that can offer major clues about what we need to know. YOUR ASSIGNMENT: Find an object related to your business decision. Hold it in your hands. Then ask yourself directly what you want to know and allow thoughts to wander.
2. LISTEN TO WHAT AN EXPERT HAS TO SAY: YOU.
Psychologists believe when you talk out loud you give your reflective mind less time to interfere with your overly-thinking mind. YOUR ASSIGNMENT: Find a place you can sit alone. Purposefully speak your thoughts out loud about your business project. Ask yourself rapidfire questions. Give yourself rapidfire answers.
3. TRY THE IDEA ON FOR SIZE:
If you’re struggling with a situation — try on different solutions. And I mean literally try the solutions on. YOUR ASSIGNMENT: Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Relax. Think about your first solution. Now imagine it as a jacket. Try it on. How does jacket number one fit? Next imagine solution number two as jacket number two. Try it on. How does this one feel? Try on as many jackets as you need to – but don’t spend more than thirty seconds trying on each jacket.
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