Monthly Archive for January, 2010
Just because you’re doing a lot, doesn’t REALLY mean you’re doing a lot.
Maintaining a cluttered life is a great trick to avoid changing your life. Be come aware of un-doing the following…
YOUR UN-DO LIST:
Undo personal wackiness.
Undo unimportant meetings.
Undo unclear assignments.
Undo energy sapping people.
Also, get a journal and write in it regularly. Listen to your inner “truth” about how you’re wasting your time — in particular with stupid/fake/energy-sapping people or stupid/fake/energy-sapping activities….then stop wasting your time, dammit! 
In Summary Career Reminder:
Time = money. Time wasters = money wasters
In Summary Life Reminder:
Just because you saved the time that made you money…spending money won’t bring you happiness.
Only spending time wisely will!
Want to know the dissolution of every relationship in this world? I can tell you in Three Acts:
ACT ONE: You hurt me.
ACT TWO: I hurt you.
ACT THREE: You hurt me even more because I just hurt you so I hurt you even more then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me, because I just hurt you so I hurt you more then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me, etc…
THE POINT: It’s easy to act cold/hurtful/stonewalling to someone who you feel has said or done something you perceive as cold/hurtful/stonewalling to you.
But that’s the point. THAT’S the EASY thing to do.
Basically, we people as a species aren’t mean or evil.
We are WEAK.
It takes EFFORT to consciously, openly, bravely, warmly speak up about the hurt you feel — AT THE SPEED OF LIFE – before things spiral negatively downward.
Yes, it takes EFFORT to take the high road, and to express your vulnerabilities and concerns with warmth and candor — to the very cold/hurtful/stonewalling person you want to communicate with by simply clunking them on the head.
But this effort is worth it,,, because love and connection are your true sources for happiness — not money, not shoes, not sports cards ….and definitely not the satisfaction of being right about someone/something.
(Yes, I know, that last one really sometimes does feel as if it will bring us happiness…but in the end it brings us more misery than glory.)
So next time someone you care about does something that you feel isn’t very caring at all — put in the effort — the bravery — TO SPEAK UP AT THE SPEED OF LIFE — and kill that relationship monster while it’s still small.
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del.icio.us · Slashdot · Digg · Facebook · Technorati · Google · StumbleUpon · YahooAltruism is consistently listed as one of the Big Top Three on lists of how to increase happiness (from a survey in USA Today and The New York Times.)
Ask yourself:
What loving act can I do for others I care about? What generous deed can I perform for those in greater need?
When you step outside yourself and think about others, you will happily find that you wind up removing yourself from your dark mood in the process.
Interestingly, “intimacy” and “self-esteem” are the other two contributing factors in the Big Top Three list of good mood energizers.
My belief? When you’re altruistic you’re:
1) increasing your connection with others
2) raising your self esteem
So no wonder you’re feeling happier! When you’re altruistic, you’re cashing in on all three Big Top Three.
So go out there, and do something noble. You’ll literally be happy you did.
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