Making ripples: Dealing With The Loss Of A Loved One

shutterstock_262340573My father, Rubin Salmansohn, passed away 4 years ago, in the month of August. On the day he passed, my mother found a post-marked envelope in my dad’s bedroom bureau drawer  – the date of which revealed that this was something I had mailed to my dad when I was still in college.

Inside this envelope were a few pages torn from a book – who’s name I no longer remembered.

My father had chosen to save this book’s clippings for so many years, that I became instantly highly curious to read what he’d saved.

After reading it, well, I gotta say, its message seemed rather magically synchronicitous – to read this mysterious book clipping on the very day of my father’s passing.

Its message was an invaluable one for dealing with the passing of someone close.

Plus it was a rousing reminder for how we should live our lives daily.

I loved this clipping so much, I read it at my dad’s eulogy.

Ever since, I keep sharing this clipping  – in honor of my father’s memory – and because I love the clipping’s message so very much.


“Everything that is not given, is lost.”

Read those words again – and really take them in.

“Everything that is not given is lost.”

This is a potent wake-up call.

Because we are mortal, every talent, skill, ability we possess, every thought and feeling we ever have, every beautiful sight we ever see, every material possession we own, will ultimately be lost.

Dealing With the Loss Of A Loved OneUNLESS WE SHARE IT.

Unless we give what we have to others – to our spouse, our children, our friends, our neighbors – to the strangers we encounter on our path – what we know and value will be irrevocably and utterly gone.


If we give freely of our minds, hearts, spirits – who we are – then what matters most to us will never die – but will live forever in the psyches of not only all those who know us – but everyone who encounters them – and then everyone who encounters those who knew them – in an infinite regression of mysteriously unseen effect.

That’s why the metaphor of a pebble in a pond is so potent.

My Dad and me - from when I was in High School!
My Dad and me – from when I was in High School!

We toss the pebble of our soul into the pond of life and ripples are created.

If we hoard ourselves – our gifts, our talents, our love, our thoughts, our feelings, our insights, our words – we will make a very little splash and the ripples will soon end.

But if we give fully, with abandon and abundance, the ripples go out infinitely, overlapping and intermingling with other souls.

Viewed this way…what kind of ripple do you want to be?


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Written by Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
  • i’ve just spent a few hours writing blog posts that encourage people to express themselves, to embrace their unique-ness, etc……..then decided not to post them because maybe they weren’t going to be helpful or “right” or whatever…..then I found you (via Twitter) and read this article. it reminded me that even if no one ever reads them, it’s the practice of giving what’s in my heart that’s the most important. i’ll get to posting, thanks to your sharing these words. ps – love your posters. i’ll be passing them along, for sure.

  • Marissa

    It was very touching and enlightening…thanks for sharing.

  • richiline dela cruz

    i miss u mama…
    this is so inspiring…thank u!

  • chris durkin

    “magically synchronicitous”- oh my!
    pure karen. 🙂

  • Alice Ann Hengesbach

    Thank you, Karen. And thanks to your dad for saving … my dad too saved letters … while I enjoy the connections technology makes possible, I wish we wrote letters more often. We will never find a computer tucked in a dresser drawer…hmmm, a tablet maybe? Again, thank you.

  • thank you for this beautiful sharing of your soul.

  • Elle

    Very nice. I have always loved the idea of the ripples of kindness that we put out into the world. All the best.