If someone hurt you deeply to your soul, this Zombie analogy is for you!

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If someone hurt you deeply to your soul, this Zombie analogy is for you.

If someone hurt you deeply to your soul, this Zombie analogy is for you. Read on…

If someone hurt you deeply to your soul, it’s tempting to want to shut down and shut off – to give in and give up – to get bitter, resentful, depressed – and all before breakfast!

This soul-shutting-down tendency reminds me of those classic zombie horror movies. You know, those unconscious, soulless zombies walking around in darkness, taking bites out of innocent, happy, soulful people? One chomp, then, suddenly, these newly bitten folks find themselves becoming zombie-like themselves. They feel their souls shut down. They crave spending time in darkness. They want to bite others.

Likewise, if you’ve suffered from an emotional zombie bite, it’s temping to want to join the zombie crowd and shut off your soul, seek dark thoughts, and chomp upon another. It’s especially tempting to want to chomp upon the zombie chump who chomped upon you!

Basically, when you’ve been bitten by a zombie, you can find yourself feeling the urge to become zombie-like yourself. But you must resist. You must stay strong. You must keep your soul alive!


First, you must face toward the light – where love, forgiveness, peace, faith, joy, and growth can all be found. All of this light is what keeps your soul alive – and keeps you from becoming an unconscious, soul-dead zombie.

Zombie-like behavior cannot survive in the light. Zombie-like behavior thrives in darkness, with a shut-down soul and well-fed ego – an ego which survives on being right about having the right to be bitter, resentful, and depressed…all before breakfast!

One the biggest sources of light to keep your soul alive is Self-love. And one of the biggest sources of self-love?


If someone hurt youForgiveness can start with forgiving yourself for being bitten by a soulless zombie. After all, chances are, the zombie who chomped upon you didn’t look like a zombie. Just like in the movies, these soulless zombies often pass themselves off as normal soulful people.

Next, you have to forgive the zombie who bit you.  Remember, forgiving your zombie will release their poison from your system. Forgiving your zombie will help to make sure you save your soul from shutting down. Forgiving your zombie will make sure you don’t start craving constant dark thoughts. Forgiveness releases the zombie-bite poison from your system.

Remind yourself that your zombie probably became a zombie because a zombie bit them. And the zombie who bit them, was bitten by a zombie. And the zombie who bit them, was bitten by a zombie.

Feel compassion for these zombies—knowing that they, sadly, must walk the earth living with a shut-down soul—never experiencing  their own soul, dancing and shining with the light of love, forgiveness, peace, faith, joy, and growth.

If you’ve recently been bitten by a zombie, take a moment to vow to yourself that you will do what you can to save this planet from being overtaken by zombies, by making sure you, at least, won’t become a zombie yourself!

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Written by Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
  • Tom

    I got to know an asylum girl, and she took advantage of me for 9 months, I helped her financially and emotionally to overome her problems in uk, while i was studying at university and had so much in my life already. She treated me like a dog by cutting me out and going with someone else and turned back to me like she never knew me before. I wanted to call border agency and report her illegal working, I knew the consequence which would effect her life, when I looked into this article i decide to keep calm and leave it and i thought, she will pay back one day in her life.

    • Anjo

      Man,you made a good decision.Love yourself and strive to be happier 🙂

    • Vali

      Try taking responsibility. She didn’t want you. So.. Instead of taking it like a man, you CHOOSE TO blame her for you giving her money etc.
      not her fault.

      • Meagan

        Vali, I personally have dealt with issues similar but not the same but one point you make which no one ever wants to do is take responsibility and truly see their part they played in the situation. I’m in recovery and addicts are the worst for blaming others. This analogy works so well and forgiveness is def the key but as we forgive, we are forgiving “all the money she took from me”, we are forgiving ourselves for allowing “love” to blind us into giving so freely and that is OK. Great point thank you

    • Ijeoma Bennett

      Thank you, Tom. I helped a Lady and served as her Guarantor and she fooled me with her so-called ‘Uncle’. Now, I’ve been committed to paying what she’s owing and she’s off supposedly, justifiably because I flamed up in anger at her lies, with another man.

      It hurts but I gotta forgive. Your experience is a Lesson to me.

  • Anjo

    Karen,your articles are really soul-relieving.I wish I could just meet you and be relieved about every thing.You actually make me happy.God bless you

    • notsalmon

      Aww! Thanks, Anjo. Glad I could make you smile.

  • Annabel

    super-like it…. thanks!

  • Heartache

    Forgiveness…I’ve tried and am still trying to forgive but it’s just so so hard. It’s hard when my mind keep remembering those hurtful words, actions etc and my heart just aches every time. I’m angry, sad and disappointed. Just feels like shutting down and creeping into the darkness. I know I must not but this seems easier.

  • Roba

    This is so crazy. I have been feeling very down for the last ten days because some soulless zombie has indeed sucked at me. And just 5 minutes ago I decided to let go, forgive him, wish him all the best in life from the depth of my heart and I really feel light. Just minutes later I see your post. You are so right. Thank you for sharing and reminding that happiness lies indeed in forgiveness and wishing others the happiness that everyone deserves.

  • amalie

    This is just the greatest. It really bumped me over that final plateau to letting go. Thank you 🙂

  • Threasa

    I would like to learn the difference between “not shutting down” but still protecting yourself???

  • tarana

    This is awesome. . U r a soul saver!

  • Kathy

    Karen I purchased your book, “Instant Happy” and love it. Your book was my first step to healing from a 54 year life ‘full’ of so many people who are (loveless, soulless, faithless, joyless, uncompassionate, controlling, bullying, angry, bitter, resentful, unhappy, jealous, manipulative, deceptive, dishonest, untrustworthy, mean, hateful, negative, insecure within, unemotional, unhealthy within, superficial, pretentious, ridicule, revengeful, immature, hurt anyone in their path that is unlike them, stressed, in denial, closed minded, and clueless living in unhealthy ways). Thank you for all your postings. Truly appreciate them as they have given me additional validation to what I have experienced, been subjected to, endured, been effected by, and how to heal, let go, and handle.

  • Pratiksha

    I was in a relation where I was cheated..the guy was already engaged and kept me in darkness..got involved..n I came to know about his engagement from third person. .I was in darkness. .he dropped me like a hot brick..but m in process to no more being a zombie..don’t want to shut my soul down…never…

  • Karen

    Great post! Thanks! I’m going to do my part to forget what lies behind…and press on toward the things that lie ahead. I’m have chosen to forget the zombies. Ha!

  • Slhiaz

    Wow you hit my soul tonight. I was with a man for 10 years (a functioning alcoholic), engaged in 2010 and broke off our engagement after he took back the ring 4 times (during his drinking hours). Broke it off in June of 2012 and on December 26, 2012 he passed away from his drinking. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with this man – albeit his drinking, he was my soulmate and leaving him was not easy to say the least. It’s easier to think of him as a zombie – these past two years have been pretty challenging.

  • Tanvi

    I use to be happy full of life kind of person. Then like your essay described perfectly about the people of ‘zombie community’ the person was standing right there, ready to bite and chomp. But now that i know about how these people function and i can see its a relief to know i am so blessed to be not in that zone any more. And yes Forgiveness does release the poison. Thank you for sharing this essay… Love you!

  • Sam

    I would like to share..I was married for 28 years. I divorced this past January. I was deeply hurt….not becuse of infidelity..but by a person that lost everything we owned. I am forced to stay in a civil relationship because of my 17 year old daughter. Yes, I live in the same apartment after with this guy, for the sake of my child’s last year of high school. Yes, I am willing to make the sacrifice. The issue would be that he wants to try now. There is a part of me that says…Run like a scalded dog once my child graduates…on the other hand I find myself falling back in love with this guy….so what he lost every material thing we owned…home foreclosed, cars repossed, financial future in shambles…but does that really define life? I believe I have reached that ray of light that you speak of in the above article…self worth, self love, and more me and less others….I know this may sound selfish….but it is really time for ME!!!

  • Lilbitsi1

    I love this!!! I have definitely been bitten by a zombie! My heart is heavy and broken.

  • J

    This past year I had a man in my life in which we started as friends. He said he wanted to be nice to me and respect me. He said it was all about me. Well that didn’t last long, after about 6 months of friendship which turned into intimacy, he would always make sure to exit my life before it got to relationshippy. I would always bring him back in. Trying to work it out and always feeling I had to defend myself when he became critical, argumentative and claimed he needed to fix me. Then he would blame me for everything, saying I was too much because I would try to ask him about his odd behavior or want to share my feelings so we could work things out. Bipolar, Nacissistic? I know I have to look at myself and why I attracted this, but as I do that, I feel Angry, Dissapointment, Betrayed, Hurt, Sad, I feel deceived and tricked. I wonder if any of it meant anything. I wonder who this person really was. Lately, I am finding myself to be quiet, unemotional, in a complete fog, walking dead. So funny I should come across this. I do feel like a Zombie. I try to do all the right things to heal. But I want to reach out and call him out or ask questions and get answers. I know someday I will help others like you Karen. I envision it everyday. Right now I need to figure out my way of healing from this.

  • Kim

    My zombies are family members. I’ve cooked and cleaned up after these so called family members only to find out they have been poisoning me with steroinds. This has been happening for years! They have destroyed the joints in my back, my hip, my sholders! The whole time i thought I was just loosing my mind but infact I was being poisoned! It’s heart breaking to say the least. As of right now I’m to angry to forgive them. I need to get myself away from them first. Then maybe i can start the healing process of my mind. I will never be able to heal my body from the damage. Pray for me.