3 Tools To Make Sure This Is The Year You Reach Your Goals!

A month or so ago my little two and a half year old boy (Ari) was sick with a fever and cough. (He’s fine now. No worries.)

Anyway, I had to give him medicine.

No surprise. He didn’t want to take it.

So I found myself saying to him – “It is a MUST.”

Sure enough, my son Ari actually did start to swallow his medicine more easily – after I started using the word “MUST” at him.

After a few days of saying “It’s a MUST,” Ari started to say the word for me. He’d see the medicine bottle, point and say: “MUST.”

A few days after Ari took his last “MUST” spoonful, he showed me his Spiderman toy, then announced: “Spiderman is a MUST.”

I smiled, then paused and thought more about what Ari must feel the word MUST must mean – that his Spiderman toy fell into this MUST category.

Obviously Ari had learned that the word MUST represented something to be passionate about – and emphatic about – something you had to have – no excuses – no “dont-wanna”‘s about it.

I know this particular Spiderman toy is indeed a MUST in my son’s life right now. He’s very insistent he takes this Spiderman toy out with us for weekend stroller rides.

I thought more about this word MUST… then I thought about the definitions of MUSTER and MUSTER UP – which have the word MUST within them – and how that makes verbal sense. You MUSTER UP the courage. You MUSTER UP the will. You don’t merely WANT UP the courage. And WANT UP the will.

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You need to feel the desire for a thing/event/quality passionately- MUSTLY- to create a world with that thing/event/quality as a MUST within it.

Do you have a WANT in your life right now that you need to upgrade to a MUST?

Do you have something you’re merely trying to WANT UP the courage for – or WANT UP the will for – and the time has come to MUSTER UP the courage and MUSTER UP the will?

If so, here are 3 POWER TOOLS TO MUSTER UP THE COURAGE TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE – and attain whatever is the equivalent of the “Spiderman” passion in your life.

3 POWER TOOLS TO EMPOWER YOU TO MAKE GOING FOR YOUR DREAMS A POWERFUL MUST AND NOT SIMPLY A FLIMSY WANT

1. BAN THE WORDS “ALWAYS” AND “NEVER” FROM YOUR VOCABULARY! Do you have those dangerous words “always” or “never” blocking you from full confidence and energized positivity? In other words, do you tell yourself things like: “This always happens to me!” Or, “I can never get a break?” Know this now: Any time you find yourself saying “always” and “never” you are creating (b)lame excuses - and getting in your own way of the joy you are seeking! Your new goal: Rewrite the story  of your life without using “always” and “never.” Need help? Put all your present destructive beliefs  on trial! Cross-examine each destructive belief like a tough attorney – brainstorming new ways to dispute and discredit your (b)lame excuses—by gathering “positive evidence” to the contrary.

2.    KNOW WRITE MAKES MIGHT: I’m a big believer in the power of writing lists, writing in a journal, writing in a schedule book. Writing helps you clarify and organize your scattered thoughts and goals. If you never write down your thoughts and goals, they remain  wishy washy vague ideas. And wishy washy vague ideas become wishy washy vague plans which bring wishy washy lousy results. Buy a journal and write in the front “This Is The Year I Made All My Dreams Come True!” Or buy the journal I made with this headline – with the cover seen in this blog post. Just click here now! Plus …you must remember to do what the girl in my poster is promising to do: celebrate those little success on your way to your big successes! When you appreciate all those little aspects of progress, you’re less likely to fall off the Joyful Life Bandwagon when a goal is a little slow in coming.

3. KNOW THAT “SEEDING IS BELIEVING.” Overnight success RARELY happens overnight.  But it doesn’t mean it’s not a-comin’ when it’s slow in a-comin’. You know how if you plant seeds, it takes time for the fruits of these seeds to grow  — push up through the ground’s surface? They take time to manifest into the change you are seeking.  It’s essential to recognize that SEEING IS NOT ALWAYS BELIEVING. However, SEEDING IS BELIEVING. What you seed is what you get. If you are seeding positive thoughts and positive habits, then success will eventually blossom. Overnight success is a result of daily positive thoughts and daily positive habits! If you’re starting to feel twitchy because change is not happening as speedily as you want, envision what you want on a delivery truck coming towards you  – just a wee bit stuck in traffic – but coming towards you right now – maybe even a week from next Tuesday! Remember: The universe’s delays are not necessarily the universe’s denials.

Click here now to read another article with powerful tools to get motivated to do those “I-don’t-wanna-do-ables.”

I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below!   What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read my essay?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! xo Karen

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  • lynnmarie

    My son was killed in a car accident on 12/4/13. I have envisioned myself being able to make some of his dreams come true. He wanted to have his own Martial Arts/Jujitsu facility so that anyone could learn and train without it costing a fortune because his coach had done that for him when he was a broke college student. I MUST make this happen.

    • notsalmon

      Wow Lynnemarie – my heart goes out to you. It’s beautiful to want this dream to come true for your son. And it’s healing to turn pain into purpose. Im sending you much love and encouragement your way to muster up what you need for this must to come true. Big hug. I am rooting for you! xoxo

  • Eric Walter

    First of all.. Thanks for your post!! i Loved it! . Second of all, i believe this could help me get a job, for i have wanted one a for a while now, but perhaps it wasn’t really on my necessity list, so I think after reading this article, I could change my ‘wanting’ for ‘mustering’! :) sooooo excited!!

    • notsalmon

      Eric – Yes – when you turn your wants into musts you can make things happen!! Go get ‘em & let me know how it goes! xoxo

  • Joni

    I started a business this past year and it has been slow going. Because it has been slow I believe I lost some of my vision. I think I will go back to writing down my “musts” my “goals” i think it will help me keep more focused and know that just because it is slow now doesn’t mean it will always be slow. Thanks for this blog!! It sure helped!

  • Nahal

    This article couldn’t have come at a better time, thank you :) My parents have been struggling financially for years, I gave up my career to help them make ends meet and now, after many years of personal and professional struggle, I’ve rediscovered the fight in me that I had lost. I MUST succeed in order to be able to help all of us. Thank you for the pointers xox

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