How To Find True Happiness (My #1 Go To Tool)


Want to know one of my main happiness philosophies I embrace – which helps me to stay happy on a daily basis?

First let me give credit where credit is due. I discovered this happiness philosophy via Aristotle – who I consider one of our world’s first self help authors. Back in his day, Aristotle wrote a lot about something called “Eudaimonia” – which roughly translates into “true happiness”  –  versus the “fake happiness” far too many of us get lured into pursuing.

Here’s the big difference between “true and fake happiness” – quickly explained:

  1. “Fake happiness” is all about pursuing “pleasure.”
  2. “True happiness” is all about pursuing “the education of the soul” by embracing strong character values,  prioritizing insight, and wanting to grow into one’s highest potential.

Basically, Aristotle believed that there’s a big reason why so many people are unhappy. Too many people foolishly confuse “pleasure” for “true happiness”— when the two are incredibly different.

Need a little more detail on the differences between the two?

Okay – here’s the difference – more slowly explained:

  1. “Pleasure” is all about “immediate gratification” of the body and/or ego – and often includes lack of moderation, lack of insightful judgment and lack of being aware of longterm consequences. Pleasure is about being impulse-driven in your choice-making. Unlike “true happiness,” pleasure merely brings a temporary blip of joy -which is unsatisfying in the long run.
  2.  “Happiness” in contrast often has a time delay till that “feel good high” kicks in – but it creates “long-haul joy” – because it’s all about growing into your highest potential. It’ s about being growth-driven in your choice-making. True happiness comes when you prioritize wanting to bloom into your best favorite you  – recognizing “insight and growth” as your purpose for being here on this planet – not the temporary superficial high of pleasure.  Pithily put: True happiness comes when you surround yourself with people and experiences which increase your soul’s self-development—hence the joy lasts as long as you last—because the joy created becomes an integral part of who you are as a unique, thriving individual.

Aristotle believed that too many people live impulse-driven lives – and not growth-driven lives — which for him explained why so many people in his day were on a constant roller coaster rise/fall of happy/sad/happy/sad/happy/sad – because that blip of pleasure is fleeting! The same thing applies to the depression problems in our world right here and now – as well as why our world has massive credit card debt, problems with obesity/eating disorders, and high divorce rates.poster one soul

In summary:

Aristotle believed “true happiness” is about living a “soul-focused life” – not an “ego-focused” life by overly-prioritizing money, status, fame, glory, superficial beauty – or a “body-focused” life by overly-prioritizing lust over soul-connected love or  yummy junk food over healthy food, or being overly caught up in surface beauty/glitzy clothes rather than valuing what makes us all unique souls.

The “true happiness” lesson to be learned:

You must recognize that the soul is a human’s g-spot for happiness.  You gotta do things which inspire, grow, and heal your soul. You’ve got to treat your soul like a soul mate – and listen to it when it whispers its desires.

Aristotle also believed there were 3 kinds of relationships – and only 1 brings true happiness! I share more about this in my online home course – The Never Again Program. These tools will help you to let go of the pain of your past and aim yourself at your best relationship ever. My techniques for finding and keeping happy love were so loved by the people at Oprah, that they offered me a column on their site!  Click here to find out more!

Please join me  below in the comments – where I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you believe “true happiness” is all about – and your philosophies on achieving “true happiness.”

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Written by Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
  • notsalmon


    So happy that I could inspire you to seek true happiness.



  • Eric Koch

    I happened to stumble on your article as it appeared on my Google Alerts. A good contrast between the two as, unfortunately, a lot of people tend to pursue the pleasure side versus working hard on themselves. Any chance you heard of a book entitled “Flow”? I read the book earlier this year and it shined light on an area where people are extremely happy when they are challenging themselves toward growth. It is similar to an athlete working hard to perform at velocity levels. Then when they become on fire, they are unaware of social consciousness and are experiencing the thrill of a lifetime.

    I’ll make sure to subscribe to your channel here and look forward to reading the 12 tips on bouncing back

  • Jinny Sanderson Ditzler

    Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you. I quoted you on the Best Year Yet FB page.

  • “You must recognize that the soul is a human’s g-spot for happiness.” Yes! Love this way of looking at it.

    So appreciate you and the wisdom you share.

  • Kas8

    Wonderful post, thank you Karen. We repeat the term Soulmate without really thinking about the meaning…Mate of Your Soul…I am a fan…love your work!

  • Norma Pacchione

    Wow, I found this article, actually, speaking my language. I, from a very young age always said ” the soul knows everything.” People around me don’t understand me or find me a bit weird but I do listen to my soul.Really, at the end , it is my soul who gives me the strength, courage and determination to successfully execute whatever comes my way.