I thought these 3 posters together made for an interesting conversation about love.
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So many people think if it’s love, then everything should flow smoothly – no hiccups.
But even the best of relationships require putting in effort – making love a daily conscious habit.
John Gottman wrote about the 5 to 1 ratio of nice to nasty. Meaning?
For every 1 challenging time (conflict) you need to have 5 loving gestures.
You need to put in the effort of what he calls “repair.”
Both people have to keep putting something into the relationship – for it to stay thriving.
The 2 seem to go together, so I thought I’d share them together.
I definitely agree that real love means accepting real people aren’t 100% perfect.
Many people “jump ship”/”jump relationship” far too easily/quickly.
However, I do feel the sentence about “in spite of their filthy heart” is up for some clarifying.
It depends on how filthy – and if the filth is ingrained into their character.
If someone is truly of “filthy character,” then you must protect yourself – and consider if they’re capable of change.
Otherwise, I do agree with the sentiment here – that the more you get to know someone, the more you see their flaws.
As John Green reminds…
(This poster – unlike the other 2 – is one I designed.)
I very much agree with John Green.
“I don’t know any perfect people. Just really, really flawed people who are still worth loving.”
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I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read these 3 posters? Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! xo Karen