Let Go Of Fear, Regret and Resentment! Read This Now!

let go of fearI’ve read how people can fall in love with those that keep them hostage.

So it is for the emotions which keep you hostage on a daily basis: fear, regret, and resentment.

They all keep you captive to a smaller life – safely leashed to a life of less.

Fear, regret and resentment are not only hostage-takers – they’re brain-washers —  whispering how this is the one and only version of life which you get  – yet providing you a tiny window for which to see the light of a larger, happiness shining within reach.

The thing is, the leash you believe binds you to these hostage-takers is only imagined.

But that window is real – and it is bigger and brighter than what you see.

And it is open.

You are free to escape from your fears, regrets and resentments at any time.

Yet you’ve slightly fallen in love with the the familiarity and security of these hostage-takers.

You’ve come to believe that they are your comforters – feeding you – keeping you alive and safe.

But it is you who are feeding them. It is you who is keeping them alive and safe.

Plus, you’ve come to believe that these hostage-takers are the ones who are making the demands.

However, the truth is, you are the one who is in charge of the demands to be made. And it is time for you to demand your freedom.  It is time for you to demand a larger, more abundant life! It is time for you to recognize your hostage-takers for who they are:  soul-suckers, freedom-thieves, love-robbers, tricky-liars, peace-abductors, inner-war-mongers.

It is time to finally escape from your fears, regrets and resentments – and head for that window of light.

It is open.

In fact, there is no glass.

Breathe in what it is you really want – expand your lungs with the fresh air of freedom.

A larger life awaits you.

Written and shared with love, xo Karen Salmansohn

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I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about these hostage-takers and why you need to let go of fear, regret and resentment? Share your personal story! I LOVE it when you share your insights, stories and philosophies – because I love to find out about my community – and learn from you too! Plus, many thousands of peeps read this inspirational website – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! xo Karen




Written by Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
  • Beth Penrod

    This really is what my life was like. I was in an abusive relationship with a Narcissist spouse for 23 years. He literally lived off of me. Almost to the point there was nothing left of me – I was ready to take my life or I had to get out, to save myself. As you can see, I got out. I divorced the poor excuse of a human being. My life is my own now. I love life again! It hasn’t always been easy. The divorce was long & drug out forever. The STBX-N did not appreciate my wanting my freedom, after all, who would he feed off of now, without me there? Even with No Contact, he still had to find ways to dig his claws into me. I learned to ignore the beast, rather than to feed the beast. In May of 2013 the divorce was finalized. I was able to spread my wings & fly – finally! I have been able to let those wounds of his abuse heal for once & for all. No more partial healing, until the beast needed to feed on me, yet again. I have been able to go through all of the baggage, unpack it & deal with it. I have found myself again! I am happy with life & look forward to living my life, my way! I never would have been able to do it without many friends. Yes, I lost people who had been in my life, with the divorce. It was for the better though! I was blessed to find so many new friends who were so supportive. My only regret is not having done it sooner! I strongly believe in a higher power. My faith was a huge help to me. Probably why I did not take my life. I owe a tremendously huge thank you to the biggest supporter in my life, my son, Josh. The best thing that happened in my life & the only good to come out of the union with the Ex-N.

  • N G

    I am currently in such a situation… my boss throws me under the bus in front of colleagues, his mistakes are appearantly my fault, when he does take responsibility for his mistakes, he explains why it happens, nothing bac happened, but when I make a mistake he repeats it and repeats it and repeats it… My motivation is shrinking (obviously), I am currently already studying for a new masters degree (evening lessons), but it’ll take another 2,5 years until I finish it… I want to at least be done with the first year (this year) when I start applying for another job… which means… I feel like I have no option but staying at least another 9 months… (until July). Only this way: I don’t know how I’ll manage.

    I’m not very communicative (only in writing), I don’t have “the balls” to say something to him out of fear of either losing or even NOT losing my job (losing my job could actually be a sollution, because then I’ll have to just find another job anyway… if you know how I mean). It would be best to only start looking for a new job when I have more experience in the new branch (masters degree), but my current position is so tiring…

    I feel stuck… someone who had the “balls” to say what’s on their mind would never be in this position, but I don’t know what I can do… I don’t know how to become the person who stands up for herself in a “take it or leave it” kind of way. I’ve never been that, I don’t know how to grow into that position without fainting while trying…

  • Moriah

    What I’m learning is that when I crave something which is not within my reach and never will be I cause my own suffering. I believed my happiness was dependent upon how much someone else values and loves me. It took me a long time to realize this is what I was saying to myself in my mind. Once I let that dream go, and accepted it would never be, and realized my life still has meaning despite how much another person loves me – I felt such a sense of freedom. I was causing my own suffering by holding onto a dream that wasn’t to be. I let the fairy tale go, and suddenly, my anger and resentment towards my “prince” melted – he was just a man – a good man – who was flawed but has a good soul. Holding onto the fairy tale was causing me so much suffering. Letting it go and giving myself the love I so craved has helped me heal and live in the NOW instead of the past or imagined “scary” future. Namaste.

  • jerry pennington

    I now know I been brain washed. I was in a toxic relationship. Have a young child with my ex. I know she is not in my best interest but can’t get her out of my head and heart after 7 months. I feel betrayed after going back several times only to be emotional abuse and belittle. I pray every day for the release but I’m am absolutely been emotional brain washed.