One Of My Favorite Stress Reducing Tools

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If you’ve just undergone a very distressing experience, try switching your lens on the world! Here’s a quickie Buddhist tale on this topic to explain what I mean a bit more – and to inspire you to take action!

One day a very wealthy man took his son on a trip to the country, to live a few days on the farm with a very poor family.

His goal:

Teach his son how it was to be poor.

Upon their return, the father asked his son, “So, what did you learn about what it means to be poor?”

The son answered, “I learned that we have one dog. They have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden. They have a creek with no end. We have imported lanterns. They have an abundance of stars at night. We have a small piece of land to live on. They have fields that go beyond our sight. We buy our food. They grow theirs. We have walls around our property. They have friends to protect them.”

stress reducing toolsThe boy’s father was speechless.

“Yes, Dad,” said the son, “You showed me how poor WE truly are.”

I love this Buddhist story! It’s a great reminder that you must decide (right now!) to open your eyes a bit wider and try to see whatever stressful situation you’re in from another perspective.

As Marcel Proust said: “The voyage of true discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes, but in seeing with new eyes.”

And now…for one of my favorite stress reducing tools…

Grab a journal or a piece of paper and write at the top of the page the words “New Eyes.” Take 15 minutes to brainstorm new ways to think about whatever is getting you upset. Ask yourself: “What’s a gain in my pain?” “What else could this situation be about – other than the negative meaning I’m giving it?” “How might someone other than me describe this situation – so it has a positive context?” “What would Oprah say?”  Or… “What would Karen Salmansohn say!” LOL 🙂

Remember: With “new eyes” and an open mind you can create a new reality.

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Written by Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
  • Princess_Fiona

    I am all for them! May years ago I read a book called “Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life ” That book changed my world! It taught me how to deal with what I was feeling in a positive way and eliminate the stress.. I still have the copy I bought and recommend it to friends – what I learned can be used in dealing with other toxic people in your life. Being able to take a deep breath and understanding it was not me, helped me become, well stress free!

    • Misha Mahmood

      I also want this book