Prince Harming Syndrome (e-Book)
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If you’re single and dating, you might at times find yourself thinking things like :
“Am I an un-available-partner-magnet…or what!?”
“Am I secretly wearing a kick-me-sign on my heart?”
“What the heck was I thinking getting involved with him/her?”
Karen would love to help you to stop this negative-thought-spree – and empower you to feel confident about finding a loving partner who makes you feel happy and safe to share your heart. Karen shares many helpful tools and philosophies in her OPRAH.com recommended PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME – a book which also applies equally to PRINCESS HARMINGS.
Karen’s awesome best selling book shares many helpful “vetting” processes to use while dating – which better aim you towards happily-ever-after-love. Plus Karen’s book offers tools to help you to let go of the pain left behind from any ex-love – because that’s part of the process of attracting your next-love!
Prince Harming Syndrome mixes the latest psychological research on relationships with the philosophy of Aristotle with Karen’s personal experiences to create an intimately witty and empowering self help book for women of all ages looking to break their bad habits for good! Karen will teach you how to seek out the 5 essentials for true love NONE OF THEM being what you’d normally think about looking for!
For example, one essential is to seek a guy who “values growing.” If your man doesn’t value growing, then your relationship won’t survive because a relationship is only as strong as its weakest moments – how you each handle stress and conflict. If your man values growing, during tough times he will be open to discussing problems, meeting your needs and evolving so as to make sure problems don’t keep repeating.
Plus, Prince Harming Syndrome is a call to action for knowing how to recognize the important difference between Prince Harmings and Prince Charmings by understanding the important difference between “pleasure” and “happiness.” The people at OPRAH loved the advice in Prince Harming Syndrome so much, they not only recommended the book highly on their site, they ran a series of articles about this book as well.
If you’d like a sampling of some of the tools and philosophies you will find in Prince Harming Syndrome you can read the OPRAH.COM articles about Prince Harming Syndrome by clicking on any of the topics below:
Some Common Questions & Somewhat Uncommon Answers
What makes your love advice different?
PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME offers a new strategy for successful love relationships — based on the ancient Greek philosophy of Aristotle – merged with cutting edge modern cognitive therapy — delivered with feisty humor. For example I advise you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince – but no need to kiss those pigs, dogs and jackasses. I then follow this feisty line up with Aristotle’s philosophies on happy relationships – which he advises are about surrounding yourself with people of good character – and working on your own character development — so you can grow into your best possible self. That’s a sign you’re in a happy love relationship – when you both support each other to become your best possible selves! Too many people forget it’s called a “Love Life” – not a “I Wanna Strangle Him Life.”
What is a Prince Harming?
A guy who is either trouble – or troubleD. I confess up front I’ve had my share. Been there, dated him. Unfortunately man guys start off super nice – then pull what I call a “date and switch” – usually after sex starts – which is why I advise women delay sex for a while – until you know a guy’s true core self – his true character. If you want to be happy in love, you must take the time to see past a guy’s “superficial lures” (hottiness, funniness, smartness, success, status, power, fame, glory, wealthiness)— and look deep inside his “superinsidehimself” true core self.
Unfortunately it’s very easy to get hypnotized by “superficial lures.” In particular, those fumes of chemistry can dizzy a gal into making stupid love choices. It’s hugely important to remember: Yo! Hot steamy chemistry eventually fades—and what’s always left beneath is a person’s true soul — his true character.
A few years ago I saw an article about “The Psychopath Checklist”—a helpful list criminal psychiatrists use to test the potential of someone being a hardcore psychopath, capable of committing repeated evil and violent crimes. The list?
- Extreme charisma
- Need to always be doing something
- Feelings of high self-worth
- Pathological lying
- Proneness to boredom
- Emotional unavailability
I realized all these personality traits described my ex-Prince Harming boyfriend – who turned out to be a dont-get-me-started lying cheater. The lesson? A good personality is never to be confused with good character. It’s essential to look for someone who values growing into their best self – which means someone with appealingly good character. Charles Manson, Stalin, Hitler and Mussolini were all very passionate, charismatic, intelligent, successful guys—but that doesn’t mean you should have dated them!
Your book shares a lot of Aristotle’s philosophies. Why is he relevant today?
One of Aristotle’s big philosophies is that many people are unhappy because they foolishly confuse pleasure for happiness—when the two are incredibly different.
1. Pleasure is about immediate gratification and merely brings temporary joy—which is unsatisfying in the long run. Basically, pleasure is all about immediate fleeting gratification of the body and ego.
2. Happiness creates long-haul joy, because it’s all about growing into your highest potential — your best favorite you. True happiness comes when you surround yourself with people and experiences which increase your soul’s self-development—hence the joy lasts as long as you last—because the joy created becomes an integral part of who you are as a unique, thriving individual.
To summarize for Ari — too many people live impulse-driven lives – and not growth driven lives — which explains why so many relationships are in trouble — and also explains the big reason why our country has massive credit card debt and problems with obesity.
As far as relationships…..being pleasure driven/ impulse-driven is what foolishly drives people to lustfully jump into bed too quickly — without fully sussing out a person’s true soul – their true core self –so you can find out up front if a man’s core self is one which will nurture and inspire your core self to become your best self — or your craziest most insecure self!
Gotcha. You also offer Aristotle’s Love Tips in your book. What are those?
Aristotle says there are 3 kinds of relationships – and only 1 brings true happiness.
1. Relationships of Pleasure.
These are partners who are all about sex, drugs and rock and roll. You might share soul-less passionate sex and soul-less playful banter—but they’re all about pleasures of the body or ego. They never soulnurture you with insight and growth—so never bring you real-deal happiness. Hence, these partners are Prince Harmings—not Prince Charmings.
2. Relationships of Utility—a partner you spend time with in hopes of garnering greater wealth, status, fame, power, glory, or beauty by being in their presence. These partners also don’t nurture your soul—only your ego. Again, these are Prince Harmings—not Prince Charmings.
3. Finally there are Relationships of Shared Virtue. These are partners who stimulate you, challenge you, inspire you, root for you to grow into your highest potential—who nurture your soul. A good example is Jack Nicholson’s character in As Good As It Gets who says: “You make me want to be a better man.” When you prioritize seeking a partner who supports your becoming your best self—instead of just crushing on someone’s superficial sexy looks, charisma and wealthiness—you wind up with a soul mate/a Prince Charming/a definite keeper!