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Some people only hate you because of the way other people love you.

hate youTWEET THIS NOW: Some people only hate you because of the way other people love you. @notsalmon

If you’ve suffered the pain of toxic love, I’d love to give you tools to let go of the hurt – and develop new ways of thinking and dating – which will lead you to true love with a good partner. Love patterns can be broken with the help of my NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM – now discounted – for a limited time only. The NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM is an inspiring online webinar – for both men and women – young and older – single or divorced -or presently in a toxic relationship and confused! You can listen to or watch the NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM anywhere in the world –on any kind of computer – or idevice – at your own pace and convenience. My results-proven tools were loved so much by the folks at OPRAH that they asked me to write a love advice column on their site!  I created this program because I know first hand (and first heart ) the pain and anxiety which comes from being in a toxic relationship – and I also know how to break bad love patterns for good. I found my sweetie in my 40’s and we’ve been happily together for about 5 years and counting. I designed this program from my heart – because I’m passionate about helping people find happy, safe-feeling relationships! I know these tools work! I’d love to help you believe in happy love again – and find it. Click now! Toxic love stops here. Happy relationships start now!

I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about people who hate you because other people love you?  Is jealousy and envy at the root of a lot of hate?  Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

 

 

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    When you are feeling peaceful you are in your ultimate power.

    feeling peacefulTWEET THIS NOW: When you’re feeling peaceful you’re in your ultimate power. @notsalmon

    If you’ve suffered the pain of toxic love, I’d love to give you tools to let go of the hurt – and develop new ways of thinking and dating – which will lead you to true love with a good partner. Love patterns can be broken with the help of my NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM – now discounted – for a limited time only. The NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM is an inspiring online webinar – for both men and women – young and older – single or divorced -or presently in a toxic relationship and confused! You can listen to or watch the NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM anywhere in the world –on any kind of computer – or idevice – at your own pace and convenience. My results-proven tools were loved so much by the folks at OPRAH that they asked me to write a love advice column on their site!  I created this program because I know first hand (and first heart ) the pain and anxiety which comes from being in a toxic relationship – and I also know how to break bad love patterns for good. I found my sweetie in my 40’s and we’ve been happily together for about 5 years and counting. I designed this program from my heart – because I’m passionate about helping people find happy, safe-feeling relationships! I know these tools work! I’d love to help you believe in happy love again – and find it. Click now! Toxic love stops here. Happy relationships start now!

    I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about feeling peaceful?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

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      How to let go of anger and resentment

      how to let go of anger and resentment

      Want to know how to let go of anger and resentment? Click here for tools, research and support.

      TWEET THIS NOW: At some point you have to let go of what you wanted to happen, and embrace what is. @notsalmon

      If you’ve suffered the pain of toxic love, I’d love to give you tools to let go of the hurt – and develop new ways of thinking and dating – which will lead you to true love with a good partner. Love patterns can be broken with the help of my NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM – now discounted – for a limited time only. The NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM is an inspiring online webinar – for both men and women – young and older – single or divorced -or presently in a toxic relationship and confused! You can listen to or watch the NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM anywhere in the world –on any kind of computer – or idevice – at your own pace and convenience. My results-proven tools were loved so much by the folks at OPRAH that they asked me to write a love advice column on their site!  I created this program because I know first hand (and first heart ) the pain and anxiety which comes from being in a toxic relationship – and I also know how to break bad love patterns for good. I found my sweetie in my 40’s and we’ve been happily together for about 5 years and counting. I designed this program from my heart – because I’m passionate about helping people find happy, safe-feeling relationships! I know these tools work! I’d love to help you believe in happy love again – and find it. Click now! Toxic love stops here. Happy relationships start now!

      I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about how to let go of anger and resentment?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

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        How Immediate Gratification Has Created Pretty Much Every Problem You’ve Ever Had – And The World Now Has Too

        immediate gratificationCan you resist the siren call of immediate gratification – when it comes to food, love, lust, money, Facebook, texting etc? Chances are if you’re having a problem right now in your life, it’s due to your needing to practice better impulse control. Read on…

        The other evening I told my 4 year old son it was time to brush his teeth.

        His reply: “I’m sorry, mom. I’m just not feeling it right now.”

        Yes, my son is 4 going on 16!

        The truth: It doesn’t matter if you’re 4 or 16 or 116.Often the most important things we all need to do wind up double-dutying as things we do not feel like doing.

        Quickie Examples From My Own I-Don’t-Want To Do List:

        Clean up

        Exercise

        Eat less chocolate

        Do work

        Shop within a budget

        Work on taxes

        Share a “loving, courageous dialogue” with my partner

         When I look at this list, I can clearly see how my biggest opportunities for happiness and growth are consistently preceded by a big, whiny: “But I’m just not feeling it right now!”

        The reason we feel resistance? It’s far more fun to seek immediate gratification – than to delay gratification – even if we know there’s an awesome longer-term benefit awaiting.

        Examples of “a longer term benefit”:

         Brush teeth = no holes in your teeth

        Clean up = live in a comfy home and know where the heck things are

        Exercise = be healthy & energized

        Don’t eat too much chocolate = no sugar high followed by fatigue plunge & weight gain

        Do work = pride & success & ability to pay for comfy home, food and coffee

        Shop within a budget = ability to keep on paying for comfy home, food and coffee

        Work on taxes = certainty that I will stay living in my comfy home

        Share a “loving, courageous dialogue” with my partner =  more loving, longer-lasting relationship

        immediate gratificationWe all recognize that hard work, patience and willpower are important. Yet, when given the choice between chocolate versus salad – or sleeping late versus working out – we’re often tempted to choose the thing which feels good in the moment.

        The result:

        We can go through life choosing what’s easy instead of what’s right – and wind up mightily disappointed.

        The truth:

        Often the hardest thing and the most right thing are the same exact thing! You should never sacrifice what you want most in life, in swap for what you want now. A comfort zone might be nice place to hang out in – but nothing truly awesome ever grows there.

         I confess I’ve been lured in to take the easy/fast route on many occasions. I’ve eaten too much, spent too much, exercised too little, blurted out things I regret. I’ve even gotten engaged far too soon.

        Yep. Pretty much all my problems (big and small) have happened because I acted too quickly on my impulses.

        Our inability to delay gratification not only wreaks havoc in our personal world, but also in our world at large.  Look around. There’s a high divorce rate – because people are more apt to end relationships rather than work on them. There’s an epidemic of obesity and plentiful stories of credit card debt.   More people than ever are being diagnosed with impulse control disorders.  Plus the number of children and adults with attention deficit disorder, hyperactivity and addictions are all on the rise.

        Let’s get real. We all know it’s not simply the smartest people who score the highest grades and biggest salaries.  It’s those who are willing to delay gratification – and put in the effort of discipline to study hard and pay their dues at a job – or any skill to be mastered.

        Basically, when you’re unable to resist immediate gratification you wreak major havoc.

        THE SIREN CALL OF IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION CREATES INFINITE WORLD WIDE PROBLEMS:

        addictions (to food, drugs, alcohol, porn, shopping)

        high divorce rate

        saying mean things in the moment

        health issues

        crime

        gambling

        aggression

        obsession

        depression

        bullying

        anger management issues

        cellphone over-use

        Facebook over-use

        compulsive behaviors of all kinds

        over-spending

        financial ruin

        our nation’s debt

        cheating in business

        cheating in love

        pollution

        procrastination

        lying

        laziness

        cigarette smoking

        sloppiness/disorganization

        mindless eating

        mindless everything

        serial dating

        sexual diseases

        any & all sensation-seeking behavior

        low self esteem

        immediate gratificationMany businesses also fail due to being hooked on the fleeting feel-good of immediate gratification. They hire super quickly – to fill that empty spot – then get stuck with employees they don’t want – but don’t fire them – because they don’t want to deal with filling another empty spot. They make safe choices for each quarter – instead of bolder choices that will benefit the company in the longer-term. They reach for quick-fixes, instead of putting in the work of finding out the systemic cause to their problems – which is usually some form of seeking immediate gratification.

        There’s a plethora of problems we create due to immediate gratification – and they’re only increasing as our world speeds up each technologically-advancing day.

        For eons we humans have wanted our desires to be satisfied right away. Well, we now finally live in an eon which can satisfy our urge for urgency.

        We’ve become addicted to our gadgets. We love the instant-feel-good of our cellphones  – often over the longer-term benefits of taking the time to meet up with loved ones in person – or even spending time alone, sitting, reflecting, thinking.

        Presently the U.S. is dealing with many problems due to people being hooked on wanting that “immediate gratification high”: financial problems, environmental problems, immediate gratificationecological problems, health problems, obesity problems, crime problems, etc…

        Plus, each year these problems just keep getting worst – because we’re ironically seeking “immediate gratification solutions” to the very problems created by our addiction to immediate gratification!

        The time has come to fully recognize that speed-centric methods just can’t fix the mess we’re in.

        We need to slow down and dig down! We need to take mindful time to make more conscious, long-term-focused choices –  in health, education, business, relationships, financial matters, parenting, etc.

        Hear this now:

        The ability to delay gratification is the most important life skill we must all learn to embrace –  if we want to ensure living a happy, satisfying and successful life – plus ensure we do not destroy our planet.

        I will be writing more about this incredibly important subject – in a series of essays. Be sure to sign up for my newsletter to be sure you get notice of the next essay. In the meantime, click here plus also over here to read 2 essays with “quick” tips for “slowing down”! And if you’re seeking psychological tools to resist the immediate gratification pull for food, click here now!

        TWEET THIS NOW: How Immediate Gratification Has Created Pretty Much Every Problem You’ve Ever Had – And The World Now Has Too @notsalmon

        I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about immediate gratification?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

         

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          One Of My Favorite Stress Reducing Tools

          stress reducing toolsSeeking stress reducing tools? Read on…

          If you’ve just undergone a very distressing experience, try switching your lens on the world! Here’s a quickie Buddhist tale on this topic to explain what I mean a bit more – and to inspire you to take action!

          One day a very wealthy man took his son on a trip to the country, to live a few days on the farm with a very poor family.

          His goal:

          Teach his son how it was to be poor.

          Upon their return, the father asked his son, “So, what did you learn about what it means to be poor?”

          The son answered, “I learned that we have one dog. They have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden. They have a creek with no end. We have imported lanterns. They have an abundance of stars at night. We have a small piece of land to live on. They have fields that go beyond our sight. We buy our food. They grow theirs. We have walls around our property. They have friends to protect them.”

          stress reducing toolsThe boy’s father was speechless.

          “Yes, Dad,” said the son, “You showed me how poor WE truly are.”

          I love this Buddhist story! It’s a great reminder that you must decide (right now!) to open your eyes a bit wider and try to see whatever stressful situation you’re in from another perspective.

          As Marcel Proust said: “The voyage of true discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes, but in seeing with new eyes.”

          And now…for one of my favorite stress reducing tools…

          Grab a journal or a piece of paper and write at the top of the page the words “New Eyes.” Take 15 minutes to brainstorm new ways to think about whatever is getting you upset. Ask yourself: “What’s a gain in my pain?” “What else could this situation be about – other than the negative meaning I’m giving it?” “How might someone other than me describe this situation – so it has a positive context?” “What would Oprah say?”  Or… “What would Karen Salmansohn say!” LOL :)

          Remember: With “new eyes” and an open mind you can create a new reality.

          TWEET THIS NOW:  Seeking stress reducing tools? Check out this essay from @notsalmon

          If you’ve suffered the pain of toxic love, I’d love to give you tools to let go of the hurt – and develop new ways of thinking and dating – which will lead you to true love with a good partner. Love patterns can be broken with the help of my NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM – now discounted – for a limited time only. The NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM is an inspiring online webinar – for both men and women – young and older – single or divorced -or presently in a toxic relationship and confused! You can listen to or watch the NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM anywhere in the world –on any kind of computer – or idevice – at your own pace and convenience. My results-proven tools were loved so much by the folks at OPRAH that they asked me to write a love advice column on their site!  I created this program because I know first hand (and first heart ) the pain and anxiety which comes from being in a toxic relationship – and I also know how to break bad love patterns for good. I found my sweetie in my 40’s and we’ve been happily together for about 5 years and counting. I designed this program from my heart – because I’m passionate about helping people find happy, safe-feeling relationships! I know these tools work! I’d love to help you believe in happy love again – and find it. Click now! Toxic love stops here. Happy relationships start now!

          I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about stress reducing tools?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

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            A Self Love Reminder

            self love reminder

            A self love reminder – to watch the words you think – because they become the actions and habits you do!

            TWEET THIS NOW: What are the most powerful words in the world? The ones you use to talk to yourself. @notsalmon

            Are you talking to yourself with love when you’re stressed and anxious? Stop emotional eating, binge eating – and just plain ol’ eating crappy food. Get tools to self-love your way to your healthiest self! Slim down and tone up – for good – with The Do It Program. Already this life-changing online program has helped 100’s of people shred 100’s of pounds – and keep it off! You can watch The Do It Program on any kind of computer or idevice – at your convenience and pace! Click for more info – and to hear my personal story of weight loss!

            I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read this self love reminder? Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these inspirational essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! xo Karen

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              Having Trouble Healing From A Breakup?

              healing from a breakup

              Having trouble healing from a breakup? You’re not alone. And you have good biological reasons why you might be feeling so bad. According to MRI’s the brains of heartbroken people resemble the brains of people experiencing cocaine withdrawal. Researchers believe this explains why some of us might feel and behave a little crazy after a tough-break up.

              If you’ve suffered the pain of toxic love, I’d love to give you tools to let go of the hurt – and develop new ways of thinking and dating – which will lead you to true love with a good partner. Love patterns can be broken with the help of my NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM – now discounted – for a limited time only. The NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM is an inspiring online webinar – for both men and women – young and older – single or divorced -or presently in a toxic relationship and confused! You can listen to or watch the NEVER AGAIN PROGRAM anywhere in the world –on any kind of computer – or idevice – at your own pace and convenience. My results-proven tools were loved so much by the folks at OPRAH that they asked me to write a love advice column on their site!  I created this program because I know first hand (and first heart ) the pain and anxiety which comes from being in a toxic relationship – and I also know how to break bad love patterns for good. I found my sweetie in my 40’s and we’ve been happily together for about 5 years and counting. I designed this program from my heart – because I’m passionate about helping people find happy, safe-feeling relationships! I know these tools work! I’d love to help you believe in happy love again – and find it. Click now! Toxic love stops here. Happy relationships start now!

              TWEET THIS NOW: According to MRI’s the brains of heartbroken people resemble the brains of people experiencing cocaine withdrawal. @notsalmon

              I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about healing from a breakup?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! 

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