Notsalmon » Media Articles http://notsalmon.com Self Help for people who wouldn't be caught dead doing self-help Sun, 19 May 2013 03:41:39 +0000 en-US hourly 1 10 Forgiveness Tools (to help you let go of anger at your ex and yourself) http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/10-forgiveness-tools-to-help-you-let-go-of-anger-at-your-ex-and-yourself/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/10-forgiveness-tools-to-help-you-let-go-of-anger-at-your-ex-and-yourself/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 21:01:09 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3318 Resentment hurts youOriginally an article on Oprah.com Why forgiving your past is a sexy love magnet for attracting more love and joy into your future. In my book Prince Harming Syndrome, I explain how experiencing a bad love relationship (or a series of bad love relationships) can feel a lot like getting an electric shock every time you [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/10-forgiveness-tools-to-help-you-let-go-of-anger-at-your-ex-and-yourself/feed/ 0 Going Through Tough Times? Maybe You Should Hire A Higher Power http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/going-through-tough-times-maybe-you-should-hire-a-higher-power/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/going-through-tough-times-maybe-you-should-hire-a-higher-power/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 21:00:21 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3316 Originally an article on Oprah.com Is religion the path to happiness? Some say it might be. Find out how you can incorporate a sense of meaning to your life, whether you believe in a higher power or not. After my sexual assault a few years ago, I found myself thinking a lot about God. In [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/going-through-tough-times-maybe-you-should-hire-a-higher-power/feed/ 0 In a State of Flux? Don’t Worry, Life Is How You Look at It http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-state-of-flux-dont-worry-life-is-how-you-look-at-it/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-state-of-flux-dont-worry-life-is-how-you-look-at-it/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:59:49 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3314 Originally an article on Oprah.com If you’re human, you’ve had phases in your life when things are in flux. Maybe you’re even in one of the following flux states right now: Career flux: Feeling that the career ladder you’re on is very wobbly beneath your feet. Love flux: Believing Cupid rhymes with stupid for good [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-state-of-flux-dont-worry-life-is-how-you-look-at-it/feed/ 0 The Number One Thing to Look for in a Partner http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/the-number-one-thing-to-look-for-in-a-partner/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/the-number-one-thing-to-look-for-in-a-partner/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:59:01 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3312 I Get YouOriginally an article on Oprah.com Are you prioritizing finding a partner who is sexy, smart, charismatic, successful-in-their-field right now? If so, Charles Manson, Ted Bundy and Mussolini fit your bill—but trust me, that doesn’t mean you should date or marry them. In my book Prince Harming Syndrome, I share an article from The New York [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/the-number-one-thing-to-look-for-in-a-partner/feed/ 0 Seduction Tips from Scheherazade http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/seduction-tips-from-scheherazade/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/seduction-tips-from-scheherazade/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:58:24 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3310 SexyOriginally an article on Oprah.com Lust, love and like. A healthful, happy love relationship serves up three out of three. A healthful, happy love relationship is a passionate best friendship. Many women think men only care about the lust angle—finding a hot bod for hot sex. Unfortunately, there are many men who do only care [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/seduction-tips-from-scheherazade/feed/ 0 How Not to Be a Jerk During Your Next Fight http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/how-not-to-be-a-jerk-during-your-next-fight/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/how-not-to-be-a-jerk-during-your-next-fight/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:57:34 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3308 Angry ThoughtsOriginally an article on Oprah.com I can sum up in three “acts” the breakdowns and breakups of most relationships since the beginning of time: Act 1: You hurt me. Act 2: Because you hurt me, I now hurt you. Act 3: Because you hurt me, I now hurt you and so you hurt me again [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/how-not-to-be-a-jerk-during-your-next-fight/feed/ 0 Do Be Do Be Do? Make Your To-Be List Before Your To-Do List http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/do-be-do-be-do-make-your-to-be-list-before-your-to-do-list/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/do-be-do-be-do-make-your-to-be-list-before-your-to-do-list/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:56:54 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3306 Originally an article on Oprah.com Remember how Frank Sinatra sang “Do Be Do Be Do”? Well, Frank’s a great crooner—but he’s a dyslexic self-help guru. To live your happiest life, you gotta sing “Be Do Be Do Be Do.” What happens if you focus on being before doing? Right now, you are probably walking around [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/do-be-do-be-do-make-your-to-be-list-before-your-to-do-list/feed/ 0 In a Crisis? Let Your Words Create Your World! http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-crisis-let-your-words-create-your-world/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-crisis-let-your-words-create-your-world/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:56:22 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3304 Originally an article on Oprah.com Psychologists say a single trauma will strike you twice. First, you will live through the actual event—dealing with the reality of it. Second, when you think or talk about the event with others, creating your personalized story of the event, you will recreate the event in your mind. Although there’s [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/in-a-crisis-let-your-words-create-your-world/feed/ 0 Honesty Is the Best Policy http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/honesty-is-the-best-policy/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/honesty-is-the-best-policy/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:55:35 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3302 Originally an article on Oprah.com You know what’s funny? People can easily see all the stupid things other people do—but you have trouble seeing your own stupid errors. Despite the fact that your error is right smack in front of your nose—or even smack on your cheek. For example: If you have a smear of [...]

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]]> http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/honesty-is-the-best-policy/feed/ 0 What’s Your Potential? How to Know It and Grow It http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/whats-your-potential-how-to-know-it-and-grow-it/ http://notsalmon.com/2011/09/21/whats-your-potential-how-to-know-it-and-grow-it/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:55:01 +0000 Karen http://notsalmon.com/?p=3300 Originally an article on Oprah.com You know that expression, “The more things change, the more they stay the same?” Well, Aristotle thought of it first. A great philosophical thinker, writer and teacher, Aristotle believed that the universe is in a state of constant motion, always changing, always evolving. However, at the same time, there is [...]

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