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In a Crisis? Let Your Words Create Your World!

Originally an article on Oprah.com

Psychologists say a single trauma will strike you twice. First, you will live through the actual event—dealing with the reality of it. Second, when you think or talk about the event with others, creating your personalized story of the event, you will recreate the event in your mind. Although there’s nothing you can do about what has happened to you, it’s important to stay mindful of how you describe the trauma to yourself and others—remember that your words create your world!

Boris Cyrulnik, a famed French ethologist, says there’s good reason to watch what you say. Most […]

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    Karen Salmansohn

    9 Tips for Speaking Up Honestly – and Kindly

    Originally an article on Oprah.com

    You know what’s funny? People can easily see all the stupid things other people do—but you have trouble seeing your own stupid errors. Despite the fact that your error is right smack in front of your nose—or even smack on your cheek. For example: If you have a smear of ink on your cheek, you won’t be able to see it yourself. You will know only when an honest friend tells you. The same thing goes if you have a problem with being too cheeky.

    Personally, I want to be alerted if I’m walking around too inky […]

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      What’s Your Potential? How to Know It and Grow It

      Originally an article on Oprah.com

      You know that expression, “The more things change, the more they stay the same?” Well, Aristotle thought of it first.

      A great philosophical thinker, writer and teacher, Aristotle believed that the universe is in a state of constant motion, always changing, always evolving. However, at the same time, there is one thing that remains a constant in everything—what he called entelechy or one’s essential potential.

      Aristotle believed that everything on this planet possesses its own entelechy, or as he coined it, “having one’s end within.” Entelechy is a vital force that motivates and guides an organism toward self-fulfillment.

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        Pain in life

        6 Liberating, Mind-Stretching Questions To Help You Let Go Of The Pain In a Break Up

        Originally an article on Oprah.com

        I fully understand the pain of a challenging (aka: devastating) break up. Unfortunately, I found myself very much duped by a man who convincingly presented himself as loving, committed and loyal – only to later to discover that he was more than a two-timing cheater – he was a three-’n-four-’n-five-timing cheater.

        I know just how difficult it can be to pick yourself up after a painful romantic fall. At first, you might find yourself preoccupied with a bubbling stew of emotions: depression, shame, hopelessness, outrage, despair, rage, resentment, negativity, doubt, insecurity, fear and an overall sense of […]

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          Evolve

          Should You Break Up or Make Up?

          Originally an article on Oprah.com

          I’ve often joked that if life existed on other planets, there’s a quick way to assess if the aliens are more advanced life-form. And no, it doesn’t have anything to do with their technology. You simply need to find out if there is dating on their planet. If they didn’t have dating, it is proof they are a far more evolved species.

          Dating can really suck!

          People stay in bad relationships longer than they should because fear of the pain of dating seems scarier than the pain of a bad relationship. People prefer to cling to the familiar […]

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            Good News For Good People!

            If you need support to bounce back from a life challenge,  it helps if you’re a good person! Read on…

            As many of you know, Aristotle is my favorite philosopher – for many reasons. In particular, I love his theories on happiness.

            One of Aristotle’s beliefs: A good person will always more resiliently recover from life’s challenges – far better than a badly behaving person. Aristotle described a good person as someone who “possesses the virtues of strong character.”  Basically, a good person has the conscience, discipline and self awareness to choose habits which they are proud of – and thereby act with […]

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              Intention For The Day

              Stay centered.

              There are many ways to make sure you stay centered and strong, no matter what your challenges. I discuss some empowering techniques in my Oprah article called IN A STATE OF FLUX? DON’T WORRY, LIFE IS HOW YOU LOOK AT IT – which you can read by clicking right here, right NOW.

              If you’re experiencing an especially challenging time  – and are feeling just plain frustrated by life’s challenges – check out the resiliency psychology techniques found in THE BOUNCE BACK BOOK – which has been praised by Tony Robbins, Gretchen Rubin, Tim Ferriss, Peter Guber – and then some! You […]

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