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10 Happiness Boosters

Recently I began asking my son (Ari Salmansohn ) a wonderful question every time I picked him up from daycare:

“So, what did you learn today?”

I know he’s only 3 years old, but I love this question – because it immediately re-directs my son to think about all the good stuff he learned – and thereby engrave the insights and education further into his memory.  Plus what my son shares also helps us to feel connected to his growth, makes us laugh – and very often, my son winds up teaching us something.

For example, Howard and I the other night learned that the word watermelon in Chinese is “Xigua.”

“You didn’t know that?” my son asked surprised – when we thanked him for sharing his new vocab word.

“No, we didn’t. You were our teacher right now,” we told him.

This made him smile. “I can be a teacher?” he asked.

“Yes, we can all be teachers to one another,” I said. “You have a lot to teach us. We can learn from you – and we do – a lot.  Each of us has something different we can teach and learn from one another. And it’s good to always be learning something new each day.”

“Sooooo…what did YOU learn today?” he asked us.

Howard and I laughed. Geez! What did we learn?  We took some thoughtful time to contemplate the answer.

“I know!” I announced. “We learned that the word watermelon is ‘Xigua’ in Chinese.” (Yep, I was trying to take the easy-answer out.)

My son laughed. “Noooooo- what did YOU le

arn?” He was not accepting my admittedly lazy response.

Howard and I each agreed that this was a great question for us grown ups to think about at the end of each day – not just kids.  And this is a terrific question for us to all share and talk about as a family – to encourage us learning and connecting with one another.

I also love thinking about this “What did you learn today?” question at the beginning of the day – to keep it as a wonderful lens to view one’s day through  – to always be thinking as you go through your day: “Hmmm….What am I going to be learning today?” or  “What am I learning right now?”

With this in mind,  I’ve now started to ask this ”What did you learn today?” question at day’s end to my family and lots of my friends. I’ve been loving the responses!

After experiencing the perks of asking this question at day’s end, I created a range of thought-provoking, inspiring questions – so as to lovingly train the ol’ brain to focus on what’s happy and good – so we can be what I call “a positive evidence collector in one of my top-30-loved-posts on my site” – seeking out proof that life is full of bright insights, thriving growth, loving kindness, and spirited joy!

Below is my list of 10 happiness-boosting questions to share at the end of the day with your family – and also with friends – to increase a combination of knowledge, wisdom happiness and connectedness!

(Psssst…you can also click any of the questions below to tweet ’em to the universe!)

1. What did you learn today?

2. What made you laugh today?

3. What surprised you today?

4. What made you proud today?

5. What loving action did you do for someone today?

6. What loving action did someone do for you?

7. What do you feel especially grateful about today?

8. What did you do today to move a little closer to a goal/dream?

9. How did you stretch yourself further today?

10. What made you feel excited/inspired today?


I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read my essay?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! I LOVE it when you share – because I love to find out about my community! Plus, it boosts your happiness when you write down your thoughts right away after reading something – because it helps to engrave your positive takeaway into your permanent positive belief system! Plus, many thousands of peeps read these essays – so, what you share could be a helpful inspiration for someone else! Anywhichway, thanks for reading – and adding your loving insights! xo Karen

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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