I myself have some favorite go-to affirmations which I love. But…I gotta say, sometimes I’ve noticed that affirmations just don’t work. Especially if I’m feeling particularly curmudgeon-y – which is when I need the mental and emotional support the most.
Has this ever happened for you too?
My clients have told me it happens for them a lot. The other day one of my clients told me a specific story – of how they woke up that day feeling especially negative. They found themselves downward spiraling in their thoughts – until they became overly worried about a big client meeting.
So they reached for a positive affirmation: “I am a brilliant communicator with big ideas. I create huge success.”
It was a no-go. Both their conscious and subconscious minds just weren’t buying it.
The problem? Often when you’re in a highly negative state, then fluffy, hyperbolic, one-size-fits-all peppy affirmations will simply feel like false hype – and you’ll have trouble absorbing them into your thought system.
I recommended doing what I call “Antidote Thought Therapy” – the thought breakfast of champions!
“Antidote Thought Therapy” is very different than affirmations – because it’s about finding and repeating BELIEVABLE FACTS – which logically counteract the negativity in your subconscious and conscious minds.
Basically, unlike affirmations, “Antidote Thought Therapy” is a thought system based in logic and personalization – as well as positivity.
Rather than repeat that one-size-fits-all positive affirmation, you take 5 to 10 minutes of time to write out a highly personalized list of “Antidote Thoughts” – a range of factual reasons for you to logically prove to yourself that you should be feeling happy, loved and successful – and logically disprove negativity as an option.
How does it work?
Let me explain with the same example I mentioned earlier.
Let’s say you wake up feeling negative – and find yourself with a loop of self-flagellating thoughts that make you feel like you’re gonna mess up a big client meeting.
You might potentially write things like….
After you’ve written down your morning Antidote Thoughts, read them through a few times. Soon you should feel a shift in your energy, mood and confidence – a much greater shift than you’d experience with affirmations alone – because you’ve chosen to unknot the root of your negative beliefs -– instead of just putting some positivity fluffy icing on top of your negative beliefs.
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Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.