A To Do List For Your Soul: 25 Fulfilling, Meaningful Habits

I’m sharing this To Do List For Your Soul because I’m a bestselling wellness author and leading Behavioral Change Expert. I love to help people to live more fulfilling, meaningful lives.

If you want to be happy, you gotta treat your soul like a soulmate.

Meaning? You must tend to that invisible part of yourself that needs nourishing, comfort and an attentive ear – so this inner you feels seen and heard.

For this reason, I’ve created this To Do List For Your Soul.

This type of To Do List isn’t about productivity.

It’s about presence, passion, and letting yourself breathe in the good stuff – while you’re still here on this planet to enjoy it.

Your To Do List For Your Soul

Here are 25 fulfilling, meaningful habits to help you to nourish and re-energize your soul.

1. Do The Things You’re Good At – That Don’t Make You Money

• We’re taught to value what pays, but some of the best parts of you don’t come with a paycheck. Write down things like “being a good listener” or “knowing exactly when someone needs a hug.” Don’t be modest. This is a list of quiet talents, the parts of you that make people love you – without you ever realizing it. Your soul thrives when you acknowledge its hidden strengths.

2. Take Yourself on a Self-Care Date

• Go out alone and have coffee at a café. Order something impractical, like an almond croissant that will flake all over your lap. Or take your soul to a movie, a concert, a museum. Your soul wants attention – but is quiet about asking for it. Surprise it with tiny gestures of delight.

3. Reread a Book You Loved When You Were Younger

• Dig out an old favorite, something you read before you knew what taxes were. Maybe you’ve changed, or maybe you’ll be surprised by how much of that kid is still in you. Either way, your soul needs a reminder of who it was before it got buried under adulthood. Revisit that version of yourself, even if only for a couple of hours.

4. Do Something Kind for a Stranger, Then Don’t Tell Anyone

• Do one decent thing without broadcasting it to the world. Pay for the coffee of the person in line behind you, pick up a piece of litter in the park. Your soul likes these quiet acts, even though your ego would rather get a little credit. Just do it, keep it to yourself, and let your soul have this one small, secret victory.

5. Forgive Someone

• Holding onto resentment is like carrying around a duffel bag full of Roombas. It’s heavy and, honestly, pointless. Even if the other person never knows, forgive them for the weight they added to your life. You don’t have to forget, but letting go is a way of telling your soul that it doesn’t have to carry everything forever.

6. Write Down One Thing You’re Sorry For, Then Tear It Up

• Write down one thing you wish you could undo—maybe something you said, or a moment when you weren’t your best self. Study what you wrote. Ask yourself if there’s a lesson to learn. Then absorb it. Or explore if there’s an apology to make. Then do it. Afterwards, tear up the paper. Let your soul feel the release of regret.

7. Hold Hands with Someone Who’s Had Their Heart Broken

• Everyone you meet has a story of sadness that they carry with them. Talk with someone you love in an intimate way and let them feel safe to share their sadness. Hold their hand while they talk to you. For the moment, it might make you feel sadder than before. But in the long-run, it’ll make you both feel more deeply connected and profoundly alive.

8. Embrace the Idea That You’re Going to Die

• If the idea of death makes you squirm, good. It should. But spend a little time getting used to it. Accepting death isn’t morbid – it’s motivating. When you embrace the undeniable fact that you’re not gonna be here forever … suddenly every decision, relationship and leap… is infused with more bravery,  urgency and passion. I share more about this in my book: Your To Die For Life: How To Maximum Joy and Minimize Regret… Before Your Time Runs Out.

9. Notice What You’re Clinging To, and Why

• We all have these things: a sweater from high school, a voicemail you can’t delete, an apology you’re waiting for. Look at them closely, maybe even hold them. Ask yourself why you’re still carrying them around. And whether they’re worth the weight. Some will stay, some will go. This isn’t about purging. It’s about understanding.

10. Take a Long Walk Without Trying to Get Anywhere

• No goal, no destination. Just walk until you feel like stopping, letting yourself take in the world without needing it to mean anything. Your soul appreciates these little wanderings, the ones where you don’t expect answers or epiphanies. Sometimes, it just wants you to be present, one step at a time, without worrying about what comes next.

11. Hold Onto a Memory That Reminds You What It Feels Like to Be Alive

• Maybe it’s a sunset you saw alone on a cold day. Or the way someone looked at you across a crowded room. Keep it close, like a crystal in your pocket. When the world feels too heavy, pull it out and let it remind you of that single, simple truth: you were here, you felt something.

12. Do Something That Scares You Just Enough

• You don’t have to do a grand, sweeping, terrifying thing. Just enough to make your heart beat a little faster, like singing karaoke, telling someone how you feel, or reading your favorite poem to a friend. Let your soul feel the thrill of stepping just a bit outside its comfort zone.

30. Give Your Inner Child a Play Date

• When was the last time you did something purely because it was fun? Remember, fun? It’s that thing you did before adulting crushed your soul. Give yourself permission to play. Go swing at the park, draw a ridiculous picture, jump in a pile of leaves.  Or spend time alone dancing badly, singing off-key, making a mess with watercoloring. This isn’t for anyone  – but you. It’s a reminder that joy doesn’t have to be tidy or dignified. A soul should know how to laugh when no one’s watching.

14. Say Yes to Something You Would Normally Avoid

• Not “yes” to skydiving or a timeshare in Cabo. More like saying yes to your neighbor’s poetry reading or a movie about someone you’ve never heard of. We can often become creatures of habit – which is why the soul often feels so tired. Shake it up. Let it wonder, just for a moment, “Who am I becoming?”

15. Say “No” Like It’s a Superpower

• Want to protect your inner peace? If so this, means using that magic word: “No.” If someone asks you to help them move on the weekend and you value being with your family? No. Someone wants you to work late on a Friday night? Hard pass. It’s not selfish. It’s self-preservation. Every time you say no to something that doesn’t serve you, you’re making room for something that actually does.

16. Accept That There Are Things You Will Never Know

• The soul is a bit of a mystery, and so is life. Embrace not knowing everything. Let yourself wonder. Look up at the stars and consider that you’ll probably never understand them. Or why the world can be both breathtaking and terrifying. Not knowing isn’t failure. It’s what makes us human. It’s what makes us curious.

17. Be a Positive Evidence Collector

• Your soul doesn’t need you to be relentlessly positive. But it helps if you give it a reason to feel positive about your life. Find one good thing, even if it’s as small as “I made it to my bus on time” or… “My coffee was exactly how I like it.” or… “I love the smell of my hair after a shampoo.” Write it down every day. In time, you’ll see that even on the bad days, there were pieces worth keeping. Your soul loves small pleasures.

18. Let Yourself Be Loved, Even When You Don’t Feel Worthy

• Sometimes, it’s hard to believe we deserve love. But let people love you anyway. Let your friends text you to see if you’re okay. Let your family invite you to dinner, even if you feel like the odd one out. Your soul needs reminders that love doesn’t require perfection; it just needs room to exist, as messy and complicated as it is.

19. Remember That It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Sometimes

• You don’t have to have it all together. Some days, the best you can do is get out of bed. And that’s enough. Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling without forcing a silver lining. The soul is resilient, but it’s also soft. Sometimes it needs a moment to break down so it can rebuild stronger, truer to who you are becoming.

20. Do Nothing for Five Whole Minutes (Yes, Really, Nothing)

• Find a chair, sit down, and do absolutely nothing for five minutes. No phone, no music, no talking. It sounds easy, but it’s harder than you think. Your soul rarely gets the luxury of silence. Five minutes might feel awkward, or even pointless, but it’s a way of telling your soul, “I’m here. I’m listening.” Sometimes, that’s all it needs.

21. Check In on the Dream You Almost Forgot About

• You know the one. The thing you swore you’d do before life got in the way. Maybe it’s a novel draft buried in your closet. Or that time you swore you’d learn Italian.  Think about this dream – and ask yourself what’s stopping you from moving forward.

22. Let Yourself Want What You Want, Even If It’s Ridiculous

• Maybe it’s as big as a summer in Paris or as small as a really nice set of sheets. Don’t make excuses for it. And don’t tell yourself why you don’t deserve it. Your soul needs to know that wanting is okay, that it’s not selfish to have desires, even ones that are impractical or silly. Just let yourself want, without shame.

23. Be grateful

• Think of gratitude as soul fuel. It doesn’t just help you notice the good stuff. It’s like an instant emotional reset button. Try listing three things you’re grateful for every morning. Get creative, go small, go big—but go there.

24. Unplug and Connect…Like, Actually Connect

• We’re all over-connected online ….but under-connected in real life. Take an hour, leave the phone in the other room, and connect with someone face-to-face. Think of it as re-learning human interaction. No notifications, no scrolling. Just conversation. Real, old-school human connection.

25. Cultivate a Sense of Wonder

• Start looking at the world with fresh eyes. Notice the sky, try to remember the names of the constellations, take the scenic route home. Wonder is the spark that keeps the soul alive. It’s the part of you that looks up and says, “Wow, the universe is really out here doing its thing.” And hey, so are you.

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